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There are a number of problems when it comes to sharing your space with someone. Noisy roommates, loud roommates, broke roommates, rude roommates, lazy roommates - they all exist and, unfortunately, you could be stuck living with one. A messy roommate is just another type of roommate to add to the long list. However, there are ways to deal with a messy roommate without losing your cool and your belongings in the process.

There is nothing more annoying than coming home after a long day at work to a disaster apartment. Clothes flung everywhere, damage to the walls requiring wall hole repair, kitchen utensils out of place, leftover food on the table, dirty dishes in every corner of the house - if you are a tidy person, this can push you over the edge, especially if this messiness is constant. Teaching a messy person how to be clean can be difficult so what can be done about your messy roommate?

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The first thing you need to do is talk to her about it. Everyone is different when it comes to their comfortable living environment and some people, believe it or not, feel more comfortable when they are surrounded by mess. If you are not one of those people you don't have to become a slob just to fit in. The object of the game is to find a compromise when dealing with a messy roommate.

Let her know that you prefer to live in a clean place where everything has a spot (and this spot is not on the floor). Ask her to leave the mess in her bedroom rather than in common areas. Flinging a dirty towel on the bathroom floor is not much different than flinging it on her bedroom floor but it can make a world of difference to you, the roommate.

Setting up a Cleaning Schedule

Set up a cleaning routine and stick by it. This includes proper cleaning as well as tidying. Every night both of you should have a different room to tidy. This may be just rearranging the pillows and putting the blankets away or it may involve cleaning up the dishes after dinner. Then, once a week, you should have a regular clean of each room, including toilet scrubs, mopping, vacuuming and fridge cleaning.

Put the schedule somewhere where your roommate will be able to see it. It may take her some time to get used to actually cleaning but eventually she will get it. If she is continuously forgetting to do her part, say something to you but try not to nag her. She doesn't need a roommate who doubles as a mother.

You may find, however, that there are problems even with a schedule in place. For example, she may not clean to your standard or she may wait until the last minute to do the dishes. Keep in mind that everyone is different and, while you may prefer to clean right after dinner, she may choose to do it at midnight. The most important thing is that the job is getting done and that she is helping out.

Pick your battles when it comes to dealing with a messy roommate. While the common areas, such as the living room, kitchen and bathroom should remain tidy, allow her to do what she wants with her bedroom. If you are having company over or if you cannot stand the sight of her messy room simply shut the door so you don't have to see it when you walk past. Going into her room and tidying up crosses the roommate boundaries and can end up in a big fight, with you in the wrong.

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